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How to Manage Mental Health During the Festive Season
Feeling festive, or just faking it? The holiday season isn’t all joy and cheer for everyone. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by sadness, loneliness, or stress during this time of year, you’re not alone. Discover the reasons behind the ‘holiday blues’ and what you can do this season for yourself.
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AUMHUM Staff
11 mins read · Dec 18, 2024
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The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. Everywhere you look, there are images of families gathered around a festive table, friends exchanging gifts, and communities coming together in warmth and cheer. But for many, the reality of the season is far from the ideal. Instead of feeling festive and happy, they find themselves overwhelmed, lonely, and filled with a sense of sadness. This phenomenon, commonly referred to as the “holiday blues,” is a worldwide issue that affects people from all walks of life, regardless of culture or background.

In fact, it’s during this time of year that we see a significant uptick in mental health struggles, including anxiety, depression, and, tragically, suicides. While the season may seem like a time of cheer for some, for others, it can be an emotional minefield. So why does this happen? What’s really going on, psychologically and socially, during the festive season that leads so many to feel the weight of the “blues”?


Why the Holiday Blues Are So Common

At first glance, it may seem odd that a time of year associated with celebration and giving could lead to such profound feelings of sadness and isolation. But the truth is, the holiday season is a complex time, full of mixed emotions, societal pressures, and unmet expectations. Here are some of the key factors that contribute to the holiday blues:

1. The Pressure to Be Happy

There is immense pressure during the holidays to feel and act a certain way—happy, connected, and grateful. Society bombards us with images of perfect family gatherings, idealized moments of joy, and the notion that the holiday season is the happiest time of the year. For those who are struggling, whether due to personal loss, financial hardship, or emotional distress, this can feel like an impossible standard to meet. The dissonance between the idealized version of the holidays and the reality of one’s own experience can cause frustration, guilt, and feelings of inadequacy.

2. Loneliness and Isolation

While many people look forward to spending time with loved ones during the holidays, there are just as many who feel isolated. The holidays often highlight the absence of loved ones—whether through physical distance, family estrangement, or the death of a loved one. Social media can exacerbate these feelings by presenting a curated version of reality, showing friends and family having joyful celebrations, which can intensify feelings of loneliness and exclusion for those who are struggling.

3. Financial Stress

The pressure to buy gifts, host parties, and participate in seasonal activities can place a significant financial strain on many individuals and families. For some, the burden of debt, rising costs, and the expectation to meet societal norms of spending can lead to feelings of anxiety and stress. The economic pressures are often intensified by the contrast between the “ideal” holiday experience and the reality of a limited budget.

4. Unresolved Family Conflict

Family dynamics can be particularly stressful during the holiday season. The expectation of togetherness can magnify underlying tensions or unresolved conflicts between family members. For some, returning to family gatherings can bring up painful memories or ignite old conflicts, making what should be a joyous occasion a stressful or even traumatic event.

5. Shorter Days and Lack of Sunlight

From a biological standpoint, the shorter days and lack of sunlight in many parts of the world during the winter months can contribute to seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Reduced exposure to sunlight leads to a drop in serotonin, the brain chemical that affects mood, leading to feelings of sadness, lethargy, and depression. The weather and the limited daylight can further exacerbate feelings of hopelessness and fatigue.

6. The Pressure of Perfection

Holiday expectations often include perfection—perfect meals, perfect decorations, and perfect moments. The desire to create a flawless experience can create stress and anxiety. If things don’t go according to plan, feelings of failure or frustration can overshadow the joy that is supposed to come with the season.


The Psychological and Social Factors Behind the Holiday Blues

So, what’s really happening in our minds and in our social lives during the holiday season? The combination of societal expectations, emotional triggers, and biological changes creates the perfect storm for mental health challenges. Psychologically, the holiday season often forces us to confront emotional wounds and unfulfilled desires, whether that’s grief, loneliness, or unmet needs for connection. The contrast between the idealized holiday and our own lived experience can lead to a profound sense of disappointment and sadness.

Socially, the emphasis on family and togetherness can highlight the absence of these things in one’s own life. This isn’t just about being single or not having a family; it’s about feeling disconnected from others and isolated in a time that is supposed to be about unity. The overemphasis on materialism, perfection, and consumerism during the holidays can also lead to feelings of inadequacy and pressure to perform, which can exacerbate mental health struggles.

And biologically, the lack of sunlight, the cold weather, and changes in routine can have a direct impact on mood regulation. Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a real condition that affects many people during the winter months, and its symptoms—depression, irritability, fatigue—are only amplified by the pressures of the season.


How to Turn the Holiday Blues Around

While the holiday season can be challenging for many, there are ways to manage and even transform these feelings into something more positive. The key is to acknowledge the emotional complexities of the season and take proactive steps to protect and nurture your mental health. Here are some ways to cope with and manage the holiday blues:

1. Set Realistic Expectations

It’s important to remember that not every holiday gathering will be perfect, and that’s okay. Rather than aiming for an idealized, stress-inducing version of the holidays, try to focus on what is meaningful to you. Set realistic expectations for yourself and others, and remember that it’s perfectly fine to not be “happy” all the time. Perfection is unattainable, and striving for it only sets you up for disappointment.

2. Practice Self-Care

During the holiday season, make self-care a priority. This means taking time to rest, eat well, exercise, and do things that bring you joy. Whether it’s a walk in nature, reading a book, or enjoying a hobby, giving yourself permission to care for your mental health can be a game-changer. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to say no to events or obligations that don’t serve your well-being.

3. Reach Out for Support

If you’re feeling isolated or lonely, reach out to someone you trust. Don’t be afraid to open up about your feelings, whether that’s through a phone call, a video chat, or even a support group. Connection with others—whether in person or virtually—can provide comfort and reduce feelings of isolation.

If you’re struggling with more intense emotions, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Talking to a therapist or counselor can provide valuable coping strategies and support during the holiday season.

4. Practice Gratitude

It’s easy to focus on what’s missing during the holidays—whether it’s the loss of a loved one or the inability to afford the holiday experiences you’d like to have. However, shifting your focus to what you do have—your health, your home, your support system—can help you build resilience against the holiday blues. A daily gratitude practice, where you write down things you’re thankful for, can help shift your perspective and bring some light into the season.

5. Create New Traditions

If certain aspects of the holiday season are difficult for you, consider creating new traditions that bring you comfort and joy. Whether it’s volunteering, spending time with friends who understand, or focusing on quiet moments of reflection, new traditions can help you reclaim the season and find meaning in it beyond societal expectations.

6. Get Moving

Exercise is one of the best ways to combat feelings of depression and anxiety. Physical activity releases endorphins—chemicals in the brain that improve mood and help reduce stress. Whether it’s a daily walk, a yoga class, or a dance session at home, getting your body moving can make a huge difference in how you feel.

7. Light Therapy for SAD

If you’re dealing with seasonal affective disorder, light therapy can be a highly effective treatment. A light therapy box simulates sunlight, helping to regulate your circadian rhythm and improve your mood. Consult with a healthcare provider to see if this might be an appropriate option for you.


Making Peace with the Holidays

The holiday blues are real, and they affect many people around the world. But while the season can bring challenges, it doesn’t have to define your experience. By setting realistic expectations, prioritizing self-care, reaching out for support, and finding new ways to engage with the season, you can manage your mental health and even transform the holiday period into a time of personal growth and meaning.


As we approach the festive season, remember that your mental health matters. Take small steps to protect your well-being, and give yourself permission to experience the season in a way that feels right for you. You don’t have to embrace the holiday cheer just because it’s expected; instead, you can create a holiday experience that truly nurtures your soul.

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